Where to Meet Men

Where to meet men, is a question that almost every single woman has asked at one time or another. There really is no secret and with a few tips you will be well on your way to knowing where to meet men.

We will get to THE best place to meet men, which isn’t the grocery store by the way, but first let’s look at a list of the old tried and true.

In my experience singles events are one of the worst places to meet men.  I find at singles events everyone is nervous and a nervous energy hangs in the air so no one is at their best.  I will admit that I’ve only attended a few singles events, since  the thought of going makes me cringe.  In my experience I’ve ended up talking to several people who were nice, but people who I had nothing in common with so conversation was stilted and awkward.  On the rare occasions where I did agreed to a coffee date later on, the conversation was even more stilted.  My recommendation is to save yourself an awkward evening and focus your energy elsewhere, like on places where you will meet men that you have something in common with. 

Speed dating is a great way to practise your flirting skills and to compare apples to apples if you aren’t sure what qualities you are looking for in a man.  Speed dating is also a great way to get your feet wet if you’re just entering the dating pool again and you likely will get a few dates out of it, which can be a good way to increase your confidence.  It can be a fun way to meet men if you’re looking to date casually, but keep your expectations low and just have fun with it.  It is not the best way to meet men if you are looking for something more serious.  Having said that, a close friend of mine did meet her future husband speed dating, so you never know.

From my observations, online dating can become a full time occupation.  I have many friends who have ventured into the cyber world of online dating only to be become obsessed spending more than 20 hours a week chatting with men online or seeing who was checking them out.  I also know many a women who have gone on multiple dates with men they met online, sometimes up to 5 dates in one week only to be sorely disappointed.  I also know people who are in happy relationships with people they’ve met through online dating.  The trick is to not become obseesed with it, otherwise when you’re meeting potential dates you’ve got nothing interesting to discuss since you can’t really discuss how obsessed you are with meeting men  that you have no time for anything else – unless you want the date to end quickly.  Also, choose a dating site that meets your needs.  If you’re looking for something casual LavaLife might be a good choice.  If you’re looking for something more serious I would recommend e-Harmony.  With e-Harmony you won’t have hundreds of guys to choose from, but the ones you’re matched with you are more likely to be compatible with, it’s quality versus quantity.  I have only tippy toed into online dating and it wasn’t for me, but it can be another venue worth exploring – in moderation.

Finally, the best place to meet men..... My tried and true method of meeting men is to have an active live filled with hobbies and interests that I thoroughly enjoy doing.  I’ve met many interesting people, not only men, by revolving my life around my interests, not hanging out in bars.  If you’re hobby is meeting men, you will reek of desperation and men will go running no matter how nice you are.  Case in point, I met two boyfriends that I dated for a couple of years (at different times) playing in a co-ed ball hockey league (I love ball hockey by the way).  In both cases, the men were shy and if I had only met them once I probably wouldn’t have been interested since they were so quiet.  But seeing them every week for ball hockey, I gradually got to know them, they opened up and I realized how much we had in common, plus we already had a foundation from knowing each other for a few months.

Another case in point was a boyfriend that I met through mutual friends on a skiing trip.  It turns out that besides skiing we both had a passion for the outdoors.  I met another boyfriend t through a hiking club and we spent a great summer hiking together.

I met my current boyfriend on a shark diving trip off the coast of Costa Rica.  My dive buddy deserted me and he gallantly stepped in which definitely got my attention.  Despite living on different continents, he’s German, I’m Canadian we’ve managed to make it work and have had exciting scuba diving vacations since.  Besides scuba diving it turns out we have many other activities in common too!

I truly believe that you by doing things you’re interested in you’re more likely to meet quality men that you actually have something in common with, than any other method of meeting men since less is left up to chance.  There are groups, clubs, and teams for almost every interest out there.  There are also Meet Up groups around the globe in which you can find clubs for almost every hobby you can think of from playing board games, to Basset Hound owners groups to book clubs.  I’m not saying that every Bassett hound owners are going to be perfect for each other as this is certainly not the case but it does make conversation less awkward since you have something in common from the beginning. 

The best part about joining a group, club or team is that you will gradually get to know people over time and find that someone you would have dismissed from a onetime meeting actually is pretty great.  Not to mention that you will be living a fabulous interesting life so even if you don’t meet someone from your running club,  you will have something interesting to talk about when you do meet that someone special at your international dinner club or in line at the grocery store, since really the best place to meet men can be anywhere.